Co-Creative Channel: Self-ishly in Love (2/27/09
Self-ishly in Love
Rev Debi Brady (2/25 & 27/09)
We believe that we need someone else to fall in love with. As we've discussed before, there is no "other"; it is all you and only you. The other is an outer manifestation of your innerwork. The people that show up in your life are what you called to you, in this moment, to do the work and have the experiences that you came here to do.
When you consider who you think you are and examine the idea of falling in love with another, you will see that you are not falling in love with the other, you are seeking your own reflection. Your need is one of validation and approval.
Once you realize that self-love is vital-not only to you, but all of mankind-you will be able to better understand what is impossible to give what you don't have. If you know not what it's like to love yourself, how do you ever hope to be able to show love to anyone else. The fact that there are no "others" reinforces this concept.
With you at the center of your creative reality, all else emanates from you out into the universe. You are the heart, the sun, the light around which all creation comes to life. Your science is just beginning to explain with "advanced" forms of thought and theories how you exist in a universe created by your own perceptions of it. Quantum physics, string theory, quarks and other scientific conjectures allow you to better conceptualize your universe, but will never fully explain it.
Consider a drop of mercury; it changes properties as its environment changes, it reflects light, but absorbs heat. It is fluid, yet exhibits properties of a solid. Like your emotions, it cannot be fully predicted and it is equally difficult to contain; this is where you get your term "mercurial". Humans strive to understand every aspect of their world in a vain attempt to predict it, yet the emotion you understand least is love.
Which would be "better"? To understand how the Universe came into being, or, why you fall in love? Choices-always-but you need not understand either. On the grandest scale, they are the same, for as you grow in love, so the Universe expands. You are the limiting factor-not the Universe. If you ever hope to free yourself from the self-made "purgatory" you've created for yourself by restricting your love, especially love of Self, you will need to stop looking to the exterior. It does not exist and is therefore irrelevant to your existence. Be a self-explorer, this is the Final Frontier you have always sought to discover.

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